Btw, just as a sidenote about the crime allusions; there are two times less murders per capita and 6 times less rapes per capita in Hungary than in the USA.. Don't be fooled by some propaganda, Budapest is safe until you are not going to the worst district in the middle of the night wearing the most expensive jewelry..
I agree. When we travel, we are the most un-tourist looking people you have ever seen.
We were no cloths with US brand names or college towns or that stuff you see here. Our shoes and a small backpack are the only thing that might give us away. We wear cheap Timex watches. The only time I show a camera is when it is a major tourist site and everyone has a camera.
We try to learn the native language but would not have time to learn the native tongue of Hungary. I think if we spoke German and Italian we would get by okay, but not sure.
As for dining, we typically pick out a place that is off the tourist trail and there is absolutely no one there speaking English. We find that this is most likely where the locals eat and have the best prices and the best food. If the local people eat there then it must be good.
Train stations are notorious for pick pockets and thieves. We never are alone or separated.
As for night life - we love it but again, we look for the local hang outs. We learn more about the culture and the people this way. We have also found this to be such a fabulous way to meet people who are just as curious as we are.
Only once in all our travels have we ever encountered any problems and this was in one of the main Piazzas in Florence, Italy.
As for crime, I take nothing for granted anywhere anymore. The USA has nothing to brag about except as you pointed out having more crimes - serious and deadly.
I used to go anywhere and anytime. I was notorious for going to the worst and deadliest parts of New Orleans. This was were the coolest art, culture, and food was found. I guess everyone thought I was a crazy white boy and left me alone.
Rather than lengthen our trip, maybe we can get Budapest in. I have been to southern Germany and Salzburg before. My wife had not. That is the only reason we had planned to go there. Eliminating that will be an option. Our starting point was Vienna. She may be sick of Mozart by the time we finish our stay there so Budapest can be back on the plans.
We are both big into art, culture, architecture. That is basically how we plan our trips.
We'll see. Everything is possible.